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When You Lack Focus and Direction: Stop Looking for Your “Thing”
“More important than the quest for certainty is the quest for clarity.” ~Francois Gautier
Isn’t it funny—and annoying, and brilliant—how often things turn out to be nothing like we thought they would?
Six years ago I was recovering from a breakdown and reacquainting myself with my long dormant artistic side, and I remember spending a lot of time wondering what my “thing” was.
You know, that one specific thing in this life that I was destined to do to be fulfilled, and ideally from which I would earn a comfortable living.
I had always loved creativity, and particularly art, and had always wanted that to be my thing; I would be an artist, sell my work, and live comfortably on the proceeds.
There were a couple of problems with my plan, however. One was my upbringing, which told me that art was unrealistic as a way to make a living. As a result, I had done all sorts of things that were nothing to do with my original dream, many of which I hated (hence that final breakdown).
That mindset is not at all unusual in Western culture and is something many of us have to move beyond, but there was something else too.
I could not seem to pin down my love of art and creativity to one single focus. I experimented endlessly, on my own and in classes, with everything from acrylics to oils, from printing to sculpture.
And still I kept thinking, how will I ever know which is my thing? What’s the one thing I’ll be really good at and so endlessly enthused by that I won’t continue this constant dabbling?
How will I ever be a credible artist if I paint in a different style every time I put brush to canvas? How will I ever fulfill my dream of making a living doing what I love when I seem so scattered and unfocused?
Since no clear answer was forthcoming at that point, I just kept going.
Sometimes I envied those who seemed to be born already knowing what their thing was, like my friend who always knew she’d be a vet. I thought they must have or know something I didn’t. That perhaps there was something wrong with me for being so fickle and apparently unable to settle on just one thing.
But as it turns out, that seemingly flighty, unfocused, shallow dabbling was an essential part of the story, and not at all the waste of time I feared.
I learned two key things about what I’ve come to see as the “myth of the thing.”
- There is what you are passionate and curious about and would do for free (and often do), and
- There are all the ways in which that comes through you.
You are like a prism, full of your own unique mix of colors that join together to radiate a single beam—you.
In my experience, it’s unhelpful and limiting to assume that you’ll whittle it down to a single thing or work it out with your mind. After all, your mind has no real knowledge of your heart.
Your “thing that is not a thing” is already there inside you, but without taking action over and over from a place of curiosity and passion, you won’t give your personal and utterly unique filter a chance to make itself known.
I’ll always be insatiably curious and I think that’s a fantastic trait to have, not a handicap. Today, I love to paint, draw, write, bake, tend my plants, make things, research, gather and share information, read books and blogs, spend time at the beach, explore spirituality, travel, and learn whatever I can about whatever catches my magpie eye.
You might think I’m still dabbling. But all those things feed and become my thing that is not a thing.
So what is my “thing”? It’s being what I can’t help being. It’s being curious and creative; it’s exploring, playing, demonstrating and sharing what I learn through the filter of art and creativity; it’s helping, supporting, and encouraging people to find their own unique ways to express themselves creatively.
It’s doing what I’d do anyway and letting it evolve into something that feeds both me and others, and yes, it’s even starting to bring in an income. I am an artist, only in many more ways than the single one I envisaged.
My magpie eye isn’t hindering me from finding my thing; it’s part of how my thing manifests. That realization has changed everything, and my life is infinitely richer for it.
Without it, I would not have tried or learned so many things. I would not now have both a wealth of techniques and experiences and ideas to share, nor the understanding and empathy that comes with having trodden the messy meandering path myself. Both of those important factors unexpectedly became part of my work now.
While there are many things we all know to do to help us find out who we really are and what we’re here to do, like journaling or meditation, I have found the following also helpful in my quest.
It takes time, so give it time.
I know that’s hard, especially if you feel stuck in an unfulfilling job or other restricting life situation. Patience and perseverance will stand you in good stead, so do what it takes to cultivate them. (I suggest a spiritual or energy practice.)
Widen your view.
Your “thing” won’t only show up in the obvious places. My creativity doesn’t just appear in the studio; it’s in how I put a meal together, how I arrange my desk, how I use my day, right down to the tiny moments.
Listen to intuitive nudges.
Have you developed an unexpected interest in historical fiction? Head to the library. Do you have a sudden urge to grow something? Visit the garden center.
Not only might you find what you think you’re looking for, you also increase the chances of discovering something new that contributes to your clarity or brings a new opportunity.
Think of a task you do regularly that you find mundane.
Ask yourself, what could I change about how I approach this to make it fun or interesting? How can I apply my unique way of seeing the world here? It could be a mindset change, an intention or affirmation, or it could be the actual physical way you perform the task.
I have a system for folding my laundry that allows my mind to roam freely for a few minutes; that inner roaming brings in new ideas and insights. Thus laundry becomes not something that wastes my precious time but something that enhances it and brings me more into who I am.
Stop looking for that elusive “thing.” Start living your life in all the ways that are exciting and interesting to you, right down to the tiny daily details. Explore, create, discover, absorb.
With some thought and imagination you can do this within your current job, with your children, when you’re doing daily tasks. It doesn’t have to be grand and time-consuming.
And then you will find that your thing is simply who you can’t help being. The more of your unique inner rainbow you reveal, the more it will become clear who you are and what you are here to do. Just be prepared for it to look a little different—and a lot more beautiful—than you thought.
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A no-nonsense, simple step by step guide to reaching your goals, achieving greatness, and creating your world.
First and foremost, just because you master manifestation does not mean that you will no longer have challenges. Challenges are what life is all about. And in fact, manifestation mastery can present a whole new set of challenges.
I hesitated writing this post for a long time because manifestation really can be dangerous and mess up someone’s life, but on the other hand, sickness and health have a lot to do with manifestation, and manifestation mastery can lead one to wellness.
This is not for the lazy. Manifestation is word, thought, and deed. As long as we are in these physical bodies, sitting on a couch just focusing on what we want is not likely to bring us closer to our goals.
Manifestation is not ignoring reality. You can create your own world, but it is a world in harmony with everyone else’s. That doesn’t mean that you can hurt other people and choose to ignore it. Karma will come back to you one way or another. It also doesn’t mean that you should choose to ignore drama or other people’s plight. Instead, try to “be the change you want to see in the world.” And manifestation can make your actions have a greater, more positive impact.
And word of caution: I have gotten so deep into the ability to create my own world that I was beginning to leave my loved ones behind. While this choice is not wrong or right, just know that you can go down a path that could be difficult to come back from.
Another word of caution: Surely you have heard the phrase, “Be careful what you wish for.” Imagine making a wish that you thought could never come true. You make this wish casually, without a second thought. And it does in fact come true. Maybe you wish you had waited to get married, longing for the single life, and six months later you are in the middle of a divorce losing everything you think you have. I speak from personal experience; the most important thing you can do before you start learning to manifest is to align your mind with positive thinking. Make sure your thoughts are conscious and purposeful. What you think of, you will attract. Imagine having the power to attract anything you think about easily and relatively quickly. It’s not easy to undue something you’ve started. I cannot stress this enough, “Be careful what you wish for.”
his is a step-by-step guide to learning how to manifest anything you want. Spend lots of time on every step, especially the first ones, regardless of how boring or easy they may seem.
- Learn to see things positively
If you think negative thoughts you will attract negativity. You may try to achieve something positive for yourself, but negative thoughts will taint it, like a mutated achievement.
- Learn to appreciate what you have now
Understand that one way or another you have brought everything that is in your life, into your life by your choice. If this is a hard concept to understand or accept, take your time, because it is a necessary concept to grasp in order to learn how to properly appreciate yourself and your own power.
Cherish your life. Appreciate your challenges. Thank whatever deity or force you believe in for your path, your karma. Look at life as a game. It’s time to take control and start playing by your own rules. It’s as if you are now taking control of the paddle. But don’t forget that your life, for better or for worse, brought you to this point.
- Redefine yourself
It’s all relative.
You are rich. Don’t believe it? Consider the fact that you have access to the internet, which is more knowledge than anyone had up until recently. And knowledge is power.
You are healthy. Compare yourself to people that are dying and chances are you will realize that you are very lucky to be as healthy as you are.
You are lucky. There are people born without arms and legs. There are women stoned to death for nothing but false rumors. If you are reading this page on the internet, then in all likelihood, you are luckier than more than half the people living this world today.
And don’t let stupid little things get you down or ruin your day. Besides, it’s all stupid little things in the grand scheme of things, right? If you have what you used to call a “very bad day,” focus on the positives of the day and be happy about it.
2. Rid yourself of desire
If you “want” something, you have just made a declaration to the universe that you want something, which comes with the fact that you do not have something. This will continue to be, so long as you want it. Desire is weak. Wanting is weak. You will learn to choose.
3. Begin thinking about goals. Envision vividly without “wishing” for them
Instead of wanting something, choose it. Spend lots of time fantasizing about it; envision yourself with this thing you choose, and know that you already have it. It’s just a matter of time before you actualize it. And do not spend a second worrying about how much time it takes. That is completely irrelevant (the more you realize how irrelevant time is, the faster things happen for you).
4. Get a book
This is the routine I recommend, but you can develop your own. I got a book made with unbleached unrefined paper put together with fair trade labor. I wanted nothing but good intensions and positive vibrations throughout my ritual. I sleep with this book under my pillow.
5. Write down all long term goals on the first page
This is the first thing you do when you get the book. You write down some long term goals. Only write down goals which you believe you can and will achieve! You can add more and more advanced goals into the book later, but if you question your ability to win the mega-millions lottery then this is not the time to put that goal in here as it will make this whole manifestation program feel disingenuous.
6. Read the goals every night before bed
And fantasize about life when you have achieved these goals. Know you will manifest all of these goals. Live it in your head. Meditate on it. Then sleep on it.
7. Write down in the book a small goal for the next day
Pick things that you have complete control over. For instance, “I will have a good workout tomorrow, and I will have fun at work.” Date it. Know it will happen. Envision it. Stick to what you have complete control over for at least a week. And don’t add too much too fast. Maybe you almost always miss your workout, have bad days at work, and you never make it home in time for diner. Don’t try to conquer all of these in one day. Baby steps. This phase can take a week or a few months. Never move too fast and do not let anything go down on that paper that you don’t make come true!
8. Write down a goal for the next day that requires a bit of luck
Once you completely trust yourself it’s time to start picking things like “I will not be late for work today.” This is mostly under your control, but you could get stuck in an traffic due to an accident or get a flat tire. But not once you put it in this book!
Make the goals more and more challenging, like, “I will squat at least 10lbs more than I ever have,” or “I will make bob laugh at work.”
9. Continue with one to two goals a day, progressively moving towards more advanced goals
Begin adding goals that have slightly less to do with what is within your conventional control and more to do with what you would have referred to as luck before you started this program.
For instance, “I will get a good parking spot when I go grocery shopping,” or “”I will meet someone interesting at yoga, “or, “I will hit the light at that busy intersection at green on my way home from work today.
10. Reassess original long term goals
Maybe they have changed slightly or significantly. Make them as specific and descriptive as possible. Start focusing on them as often as possible.
11. Make individual daily goals contribute to long term goals
Every night some of your daily goals should coincide with your long term goals. You should also start adding weekly and monthly goals as well. For instance, if you have a long term goal to make six figures, then you may have a goal to get a raise by the end of the month, and a goal to do well on a project by the end of the week and a daily goal of being focused and excellent at your job. If your goal is to get down to 8% body fat or to run a marathon or to get a raise or to start a business, it’s time to start focusing on these major goals by breaking them down into smaller goals and focus on the whole picture and its pieces.
12. Prepare to take it to the next level
At some point you will not need the book. At some point you will just be one of those people that everything just seems to work out for (provided you followed the first steps properly and are careful and consciences about your choices). I don’t know what path this kind of success will lead you to. For some, they may run for office. For others, they may learn to see love and/or God in every being and before you know it they end up meditating 24 hours a day on top of a mountain before they starve to death with nothing but divine energy pulsing through their body.
There is no right or wrong in this case. Just be careful and conscientious.
- The Body-Mind Connection (joyofspa.com)
- How To Manifest The Results You Want From Your Marketing [Fraser J. Hay] (ecademy.com)
- How Your Consciousness Defines Your Reality By Jafree Ozwald (colinobwellness.com)
- Law of Attraction – The Secret to Manifesting Faster (socyberty.com)
- How to Become a Super Manifestor (colinobwellness.com)